Thursday, March 13, 2008
i came across this book titled
The Complete Idiot's Guide To Friendship For Teens while i was browsing through my shelves today. and like i told Umai, i really really feel like buying a few, wrapping them up and give some people in my life and get them to read that. i think it'll be a good idea, don't you think?
to some people in my life: please, wake up and stop all that BS. once a month is tolerable; every other day is not. and then you wonder why i stay away. and guess what? i feel bad about it as well. but i'm really sick of it, alright. i know that when you (the person that this thing is intended for) read this, you won't even realize that it's you i'm talking about. maybe i should stop dropping hints and vague phrases that you can't figure out and just tell you the truth. the cold hard truth. you're this close to losing my friendship.
anyway, the following goes out to everybody. something i summarised from the book. read it, keep it in mind, reflect and re-assess how you've been treating your friends. enjoy!
Chapter 6: Life In The Group Of Friendsthe upside:- gives you a chance to learn how to socialize
- having fun together
- boosting your ego support
- and all the other stuffs in one-on-one friendships
the downside:- much, much more complicated
- decisions take longer
- jealousy among friends strike
- sometimes you just feel alone in the clique/group
Chapter 10: Crimes against Friendship- The Uneven Friendshipsometimes you and your friend expect different things in a friendship. maybe it's one-sided; one of you have been putting in the energy and the effort, and she's not getting what she should. naturally, the person who puts in more energy feel hurt when it's one-sided or appear to be.
-The Cling-On Warriorclingers who cling on to you all the time. these people tend to be scared about being left out, or just plain left. this situation might be stifling, so gently tell your friend the clinger to give you some space.
- The "Why Me?" Whineraccording to these sort of people, everything in their life is simply wrong or depressing. and they just keep on whining and complaining all the time. might misunderstand the purpose of a friendship is to be there for each other all the time, not a whining/complaining box.
- The Competitorwhatever you have, the person must have more. always trying to measure up to you and eventually beat you.
- The Fair-Weather Friendhe's the cookie. one glance, he's there. the next, he's gone.
- The Hypercritical So-called Friendmain hobby: putting you down, criticising you, making you feel bad and plain lousy.
- The Gossipself-explanatory.
you know, some people just don't get it. just because someone keeps quiet about stuffs after a lash-out, doesn't mean the person has let it pass or forgotten it. on the contrary, it's just there, waiting for another explosion. that's where things would get real ugly.
for some people, wake up, smell the coffee. you had a lot of time to solve an issue, create another one and then solve it. there's one unsettled one and of course you're oblivious to it.
sometimes secondary school life plain sucks.
come on, even in primary school, i had arguments with umai. but we realized it's not going to go anywhere, grew up, sized our friendship up and try not to have so much petty conflicts.
what else? oh yes. within the school itself, there are so many hypocrites. i was like, woww.. talk about hypocrites. i see a few everywhere. to you the hypocrite, i know you're not reading this blog. but seeing how things go, i think i know just what sort of stand you have.
there are a few types of people in this world which i simply can't stand:
- the User
- the Hypocrite
- the Timeless Liar
- the Gossipmonger
- the Take-You-For-Granted
i hope nobody reading this blog falls under those category. lolS.
but then, there's a saying that goes:
whoever bites the chilli, she'll feel the spiciness.how apt, don't you think?
3:47 pm
